Saturday, August 1, 2009
I wonder....
I've been thinking a lot lately about how I am going to manage 4 kids. I mean, I try not to think of it really, but when I do I just try and tell myself that lots of people do it and make it through. Then I wonder. Do they have help? What do they let go of? Do they neglect certain things? Are they really good at listening to their kids scram when they can't tend to them? I'm not good at any of those things. I try and stay relaxed and say the kids will be fine but I end up getting them or I sit there exhuasted stareing at the mess so frsuterated that it is there and not having the energy to clean it up. I can't mentally let it go it just sits there in my head bugging me until I do it...which may not be for a while so that is a long time to hold on to frusteration. Some people are just so relaxed...or smart enough not to have 4 kids in 6 years. I know I`ll get through it, but as I get more tired in this pregnacy, the 3 I have have really taken their toll on me. I hired someone last week to mow the lawn and a lady to clean the house. I mean, we are also showing the home right now which is a huge added pressure. I guess if i didn`t feel the need to keep the house clean, I would feel much more relaxed. I just need someone I can get to do silly little things that sit there in my head. Right now, I`m thinking I should go to the store tonight to get a few things. Do I need toÉ No. I can totally do without those items....but i want them. I`m such a head case.
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I don't think you're a head case. I think hiring some help is a very smart thing. I hope it gets easier for you as you kids get bigger and hings calm down. It won't be like this forever. I have to remind myself of that with just the two. And mine are 4 years apart just them.
My mom had 5 in 5 years so I ask her all the time how she did it. And she always says "You just do." You have to do what works for you. You definitely have to prioritize. Having 3 in 3 1/2 years, I learned to let things go. Mind you, I don't get stressed quite as easily as you do. I tell myself that this is a phase and as each of my kids get older, I can do more. Don't be so hard on yourself. It will be easier when school starts!
Amber, I know that you did say you have a house up for sale, and are really very pregnant. Those things are two huge things that will make you so extra tired and with more things to do then normal. I always like to think about things I would do in my normal life. You know, the life in which I am coping well with all of the things around me and actually can hande something else. We are coping pretty well right now, but really we are just dealng with the basics of life, bathing, eating and cleaning. That in itself is enough most days. Hopefully when your baby comes it may be better then it is now. Your body feeling better and ready to deal with your new babe, and your older babes! Sorry for blabbing on, I tend to do that!
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